Valentine’s Day can be one of the most challenging holidays to maneuver if you’re single . I’ll have to admit, as commercialized as it is, I love celebrating holidays and this holiday is no different. Truthfully , February 14th gives me a bit of anxiety.
In the past, my expectation of what I should have, was only combatted by the watered-down effort of the person I was dating at that time.
It’s helpful to know that my love language is also gifts. Its the way I give love and the way I best receive it. I hate that even admitting this immediately make me assume someone will associate this with being a gold digger. But the reality is, the quicker you understand your love language the sooner you can communicate that to your future partner/partner.
Don’t know your love language? Take the test here. Gary Chapmans
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
I could only recall one very casual dinner that I just felt so good, no fluff, just the company of someone I cared a great deal for.
In the past, I would allow the day to measure my value based on the effort or the lack of effort the person would put into the day.
Now listen, I love, LOVE! See how I celebrated Valentine’s Day in the past here.
But as I get older (and to be honest with a little therapy), I’m learning to provide that feeling to myself. Not to wait for someone to make me feel a certain way, or to gift me a certain thing. I’m learning to just pour into myself wholly.
Hey, I’m not saying I would not expect a concerted effort in my future relationships, but it would come with much more rational conversations about my expectations.
I’m learning to turn my goofy down and be realistic of what’s a reasonable expectation.
This approach forces me to let go of the perceptions of who people are and what they should be doing. Rather, now I focus on who and what adds value to my life and that goes for all relationships romantic and platonic. And I’m the happiest I been in a while.
So this year I’m trying something different. I’m embracing being single. This year I have decided to go to a single’s event.
Is that lame?!
I hope not because it looks like a lot of fun. Eventbrite has so many singles’ mix and mingles around town. I’m not attending with the idea to meet anyone but to just get out the house and do something fun. But more importantly not falling back into relationships that are not good for me mentally.
Check out Eventbrite they have the cutest things for singles to do on Valentine’s Day.
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