A persons action has an astounding affect on how you view your level of importance in that persons life.
“action expresses priority” Mohandas Gandhi
This year have certainly been a year for the books. It’s ok to give yourself a pat on the back now that it’s over. We have made it through one of the toughest years in decades. If you are anything like me you have attempted to shift gears. Hoping to make small wins before the years end. And sure thing, we made some big wins closing out the year strong. However, while there have been some wins there have also been some tough realizations.
The biggest realization is how I interact with people around me. The impressions or perceptions I have created for others be it good, bad, or indifferent. I have allowed negative behaviors or perceptions to create a false narrative of who I am and what I will tolerate.
I have been complacent to others behaviors and have never given it much consideration. However, the message I send to others by appeasing those behaviors is impactful.
Honestly, it was not until 2020, in which, I have taken off the rose color glasses to truly see the actions of others and how those actions affect my energy, my perception of myself, and or my personal growth.
Action Always Beats Intention
Aligning myself with those who want the best for me is essential, but until now I didn’t care about someone’s action or lack thereof and how it indirectly affected me.
In the past, I would avoid uncomfortable situations and react accordingly to maintaining or removing myself from unhealthy friendships or relationship.
I give that person the same energy or effort. But that’s not organically who I am. I’m the person that truly go over and beyond to build strong relationships.
But I’m done overthinking the shit! Your actions has to be a representation of who you are in my life not your words.
I’ve learned that each person you allow in your mental space shapes who you are in character and how others view you. I am far from perfect and don’t expect others to be.
Holding Myself Accountable Is A Start
I am thankful to have so many great friendships but COVID have forced me to work through many of my own issues privately. Where previously, I would vent until we reached the bottom of the mimosa carafe of all my woes or disappointments but this year have changed that level of support.
2020 I have had a chance to self-reflect. I’m discovering who I am through learning the value of what I bring, where I want to go, and who I want to take with me. Allowing a person’s action speak for our relationship not their words.
Stepping back from the fast pace of happy hours and regular brunches; I have been able to see those that truly revere me. Making an effort to build friendships despite unconventional circumstance is taxing- I know! It’s certainly demanding to me but I’m trying to stay connected to others that are important to me and who without a doubt want the best for me.
I have embraced more of my flaws and mistakes. Hence, I want to ensure I am putting the same action that I am seeking from others into those I encounter. And in that I’m hopeful of 2021 and the deeper relationships I look to cultivate.
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