Submission and the trouble independent women have with being servient.
Lately, I have ponder if an independent woman can be submissive in a relationship. Submission can look different in every relationship. We are led as women to accept the role of being submissive to our husbands, boyfriends, or partner. But truthfully there is no guide in doing such. Iām acutely clear that submission looks different in every relationship. Still, I wonder if and how a āstrong mindedā woman learn to accept this role.
Letās first look at how submission is defined; the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. Conforming to the ideology that you must revere someone in a higher standard over your own can be difficult for any person.
But this have been the road of the land for some time. As women attempt to fight against aggressive perpetrators that prey on their vulnerability through movements like Me Too. We still attempt to find a balance in submitting to our love ones.
How does a women lean into their will to be submissive all while being ambitious, strong, and independent. Is it possible?
A known scripture used during the unity of a marriage is āWives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (Ephesians 5:22 and 25, ESV)
There is certainly a level of humility that is needed to be docile.
Recently a good friend of mine asserted that I wanted a guy I can control. Which is the total opposite of what any woman wants. Contrarily, I want someone who can lead the relationship.
A submissive woman aims to please their man. To honor them and respecting their final decisions. But how does a strong woman relinquish control? First, they must trust their man can lead the relationship with regard and respect of the other person.
Submission Requires Trust!
But for a self-sufficient woman that could literally be impossible.
As a strong woman, I wonder if my lack of finding the right person have anything to do with how independent and strong minded I am. Ā Ā Are men afraid of secure women? Do they fear not being able to control or lead that person? Do men feel more insecure with a confident women? Or do strong women unconsciously sabotage great relationships. Solely because they want to maintain control.
Obedience is a mindful intention to allow someone to lead.
I guess women question if they relinquish control does that person have their best interest. That their decisions respectfully reflect the consideration of their partners and not just themselves.
So I know you all are like get to it! Where are the tips?!
So here are some useful tidbits we can apply that would aid in the practice a more submissive woman.
How to practice submission as a strong single woman:
- Allow him more time to talk
- Refrain from interrupting him when heās talking
- Genuinely inquire about his well being
- Tell him something you admire about him
- Talk positively about him to others
- Avoid being the center of attention when youāre out to avoid insecurities and presumptions
- Avoid correcting him
Some things women can do in their relationships to be more submissive:
- Allow him to lead
- Afford him the final decision
- Permit him permission to be imperfect
Having an outgoing, confident, secure personality can be intimidating to men. Remember its ok to be the damsel in distress. As a Capricorn, Iām not familiar with this approach. However, ensuring a person I care about feel appreciated is important to me. Having an ambitious mindset doesnāt limit your ability to be submissive to your partner.
But allowing that level of vulnerability can be scary. But women, with the right person submission can be truly the key to build a beautiful relationship. As this seem to be the plan of GOD for us.
Now finding the right one to submit to, well thatās a whole different post. Here’s an interest one to get you started. https://www.mytruthlieshere.com/conflict-in-relationships-how-do-you-deal-with-relationship-insecurities/
Samantha. Simpore
I loved reading about this topic! Although I just ended a relationship. I must admit the guys constant complaint was I did not listen. Either way I am sure he was not the one. Clearly after reading text between him and his son and his underlining motivation to use his sons help to get back with his first wife. The love bombing was weak and my discernment was on fire calling out all the sugar honey ice tea. But I am surly back in the game of dating and I look forward to applying these tips. Right before I read this topic, earlier today, I agreed to spend Thanksgiving the vegan way, in which was my dates suggestion. Here we go! Application with appreciation to submit. Thank you!
Samantha Simpore Speaks
Samantha I’m sorry to hear about your break-up. Any break up can be difficult. But I’m glad to hear you clearly know your worth and have already got back on the dating scene! Here’s to finding the right one you can fully submit to š