Orgasm & Women: How to start enjoying sex and ensuring you orgasm.

Dear Lover Chronicles ~ A woman’s orgasm is important too!

This is a little embarrassing to even admit but I’m sure there are many women like me that are not fully climaxing during sex. Hopefully this post will help you discover what you like during sex and not settling. Have the orgasm that you are putting in the work for.

I’m a 37 year old woman and it was not truly until two years or so ago, I started to really enjoying sex. But, being in multiple relationships, I always let the man lead in the bedroom. I thought my job was to ensure he came.

In fact, it was a complete chore. Well wait a minute, I enjoy a man’s touch but it appeared the moment it went to sex that it felt like a task oppose to something I truly enjoyed. Conversely, I have told my friends this on many occasions. Sex felt so mechanical and like a chore.

As a result, I was rushing to get sex over with and when it was done I just wanted to cuddle and get back to TV watching.

I know typing this I feel so bad to say. I never focused on my orgasm.

Honestly, I didn’t think it was nothing wrong with that approach. I thought that I was pleasing him and since it was “ok” for me that this was the norm to sex.

Wow how pathetic!

Despite imperfection, love who you are and what you have!

Well love, it’s a new day. I understand what I like and I direct the movie (wink)!

Learn what’s best for you and your orgasm

So, be confident in who you are and just go with it.

First, let me say that I’m not new to this rodeo, but also not with many separate encounters solely because I’m a relationship girl at heart. I enjoy everything about a relationship. Mainly the security to know the person is there for you.

On the contrary, I have just recently been able to truly be single with an effort to get to know truly what I want. And well ladies it has given me the most valuable lesson. Sex is good and an orgasm is a must!

Notedly, I was in a few long term relationships and I wasn’t being pleased sexually. It wasn’t bad, just not great. Sorry Ex. However, being single helped with this. https://www.mytruthlieshere.com/getting-over-your-ex-how-to-move-on-from-your-past-relationship/

Now, considering all things, I want to give a shout out to my love guru( shrug shoulders). The one that got me to a different level sexually. I think some important part of being single is discovering what you like sexually. As for me, learning to have sex that pleased me took years.

Nonetheless, I’m sure some women just got it. The moment they begin to have sex they are completely into it and can climb the mountain top and climax damn near on demand. That wasn’t me until now.

Although everyone experience will be different, let me layout some things that was a game changer for me without getting too x-rated.

Tips To Having An Orgasm

The location- the location makes a world of a difference! Trust me on this. I’m 5’1 and 100% of the time I date guys taller- most between 5’9 and up. My location that without failure allow me to climax is the sofa. It allow me to position myself just right to get my G-Spot. OMG I totally just slowed my typing and blushed typing that. Sheesh. This is awkward but I want to help any woman that need to find what pleases her. Your location can be the bed, kitchen counter, or shower, just experiment to figure it out.

Sex Position- accompanying that is the right position. My preference is on top.
Most guys like this position but it doesn’t make them feel in control. I can
get to my orgasm 95% of the time with this position. Don’t allow him to control
the sex allow him to do what he enjoys but before he can finish you shift to
what pleases you. There is a technique… I’ll teach you later.

Fingers- what a man does with his fingers during intercourse is key! Period. Google Blended orgasm- drop mic. Sign up here to get more details on all things dating- Dear Lover Chronicle

Don’t Judge What You Haven’t Tried.

The Right Condom- I’m super sensitive down there like many woman. So I must use hypoallergenic condoms. Decidedly, Skyn from Trojan are my go to. They are a little more expensive but they also feel pretty natural. https://www.mytruthlieshere.com/rqps Lambskin is also the G.O.A.T if you in a relationship and just looking to prevent pregnancy.

Dirty Talk- Talking during sex can really heighten the experience. I know I cringe at the thought of phone sex so this sounds contradicting . Yet, it’s different when you are actually saying it during sex. Okay, say something that will really turn you on. Start with something simple. “Do you miss this ____” fill in the blank – smile.

Sex can be enjoyable for you as well.

In short, ladies I tried to layout some immediate things I know will for sure get you an orgasm. Try it and see if any is your cup of tea. Remember everyone’s path to an orgasm will be different based on their interest but trying these tips is worth a whirl.

Overall, just do it! If you are afraid to communicate what you want to try just do it. In fact, move hands where you want them, seduce in your location, buy the right supplies and/or shift to your position. You owe it to yourself!

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