Getting Over Your Ex |How to move on from your past relationship

Did he Ghost you? Do you know your value? Are you going through a break-up and need to find ways to get over your ex ?

Ladies, let’s truly examine how many of us had our hearts broken and/or have even broken someone’s else’s heart.

Chile…. let’s grab a glass of wine and truly get into our decisions.

While it is very painful and quite embarrassing to feel rejected and in some cases inequitable, let me be the first to tell you it’s all bullshit! In fact, it’s their shit. Honestly as a woman we should take a deeper look into the men we attract and give our time and energy to.

Those dudes, yes those dudes, with all their baggage are the ones that contribute to making us feel less than the goddess we are and enough ladies!

Stop wasting your time – get over your ex!

We instead, the caring beings we are, play leggo and try to build the men we want but instead we should run…no I mean sprint away from those types especially when we notice the red flags in the beginning.

You know the ones I’m talking about the professional procrastinator/professional students, the mentally unstable, those who lack ambition, who look good on paper but can barely keep up with a tab on the date. Yup them!

They have their own undealt with past traumas related to who knows; family issues or other unknown reasons but we cant accept it and allow them to use it as excuses. Excuses for them not being the partner you need no you deserve in a relationship.

You are worth your weight in gold!

Futhermore, have you ever thought, why is it that we have to wait until a man deem we are appropriate or succifient to marry? We give them our time, our bodies and the best parts of us to wait…. yes wait… until they feel pressured or responsible enough to be a provider for us. Trust me I’m not bitter, although it may sound like it here. I have just learned to value myself and the time I have to share with others. I date plenty those who overly show me their interest in how they plan dates and the amount of time they spend time valuing my presence.

But, it haven’t always been this way, I am habitual relationship’er. I eagerly jump into one relationship to another for years on end. Many times before truly getting over your ex. Not any longer. I decide who’s worthy enough for my time. I will spend my time with guys who adore my presence.

Let me be clear. Ladies you are enough. Likely, probably too much for the lame that’s acting so juvenile in your life.

How to get over your ex?!

Let me give you the quick roadmap to moving on…NEXT. Yes, the next left, the next right who care which next, as long as it’s on to the next …

Girlfriend, stop wasting your time. Move on from the one that can’t commit and want to explore their options. Move on from the one that need to emotionally find themselves. You deserve better in my loudest Oprah voice!

Take your power back don’t keep calling/texting if he too busy, don’t acknowledge all the excuses- you even in or out. Committed or not. It’s simple.

Will you still think of him …sure, I’m sure he made an impact on your life. It’s nothing wrong with that. Give yourself the power to move on. It’s nothing there girl but more disappointment, empty promises, and heartache. You can get over your ex, I promise!

Here are some tips that helped me through my toughest times in my failed relationships

No Love Songs ( this sucked for me because I LOVE music. Snoh Allegra, Sabrina Claudio can make me weep for months for no damn reason so I can assure you its game over if I’m trying to move on. I would end up over his house in lingerie and forgetting all about the F**k boy behaviors. * Try an Audible book when you are traveling to work or in the car. It’s a great distraction. I use the Public Library App. It’s FREE! They have the same books as the Audible app. Well most of them.
Spend time with your friends or family, I promise you this will be so refreshing. They do not need to know all your “who-ha” business but going out for laughs and fun definitely take the pressure off going through a break up. https://www.mytruthlieshere.com/friendships-after-30/
Find a hobby and not just drinking because drunk texting is an epic fail. You will wake up reading your text like … really did I say that.
Journal , no millennial ’s this is not what you air out on your social media platforms about your ex; rather a reflection of what you like, hated, miss in a book that you can burn if anyone dares or threatens you to read it.
Date Plenty- if you not married honey you are single. Act like it! Date A LOT. Fun dates, go to all those places you thought you wanted to try with good company for free. Try dating apps. My one and only is Bumble. https://bumble.com/ When he want to go to the next level and you’re not ready…. NEXT * You getting there just keep thinking NEXT until you find Mr. Right.
Try a new look- changing your hair style or trying something new with your make-up will boost your self esteem. This will solely help you get out of your comfort zone. Because getting out your comfort zone will be important in this process.
Pray- Pray for serenity and the person you want to attract. Lay it out and be ready to accept it even if its not packaged in the package you intended. Because those who look good on paper are not always what they cracked up to be. Because social status means nothing when you looking for the person that will value and respect you. TRUST you me. For clarification I’m not telling you to settle but make sure you are open to what you are praying for. Don’t block your blessings.